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July 14, 2017

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Hippogryph

As has been observed many times, this is all in a crude Marxist style. The purported determinism operates here by sex rather than by class. But the purpose is the same---to deny the volition and individual character (and ultimately, the full humanity) of some category of human beings.

Way back when, the bourgeois person was wicked by nature, shaped inevitably and immutably by material conditions. These days, right thinking people know that being white, being male, being heterosexual or even one's own original gender will mold one into a devil. And, no, don't try say that you're one of the "good" ones---for Original Sin the the sin which may never be repented!

What a horror for a feminist mother that there's fifty percent chance that her child may be born a kulak. Or rather, a boy!

bilbaoboy

Painful - Pathetic - Problematic

A world-view based on ignorance, data-free prejudice and responsibility-shirking.

What a sorry excuse for a mother.

David

To recap:

Jody Allard, a single mother and doctrinaire feminist – doctrinaire to a degree one might call delusional – humiliates her own teenage sons in a national newspaper - for daring to question feminist conceits and the notion of “rape culture” - and publicly disdains them as “part of the problem,” as being “men like these,” i.e., as misogynists, abusers, potential rapists.

Then the inevitable happens:

My sons encountered my words about them on their friends’ phones, their teachers’ computers, and even overheard them discussed by strangers on a crowded metro bus.

And when one of her sons explains how hurt he felt by his warped characterisation and public humiliation, Ms Allard doesn’t apologise for her betrayal. Instead, she professes a duty to “educate” him, to “challenge” his “perception of himself” as someone grossly maligned by his own mother. A mother who then publishes another article, seen widely, in which she does exactly the same thing, causing even more humiliation, and implying, based on nothing, that her own sons, simply by virtue of being white and male, aren’t “safe” to be around.

And at no point does Ms Allard consider the possibility that this is something that sane and loving parents do not do. Neither does she pause to question her own dogma and its role in her own obvious unhappiness. An unhappiness she seems determined to spread.

David

Says Ms Allard,

I’m through wasting my time on people who are more interested in ideas than feelings.

Put another way, “I won’t listen to anyone who points out my errors and self-flattering conceits, even my own sons.” Or, “I value my resentful and paranoid ideology more than my own children.”

David

And do note that one of Ms Allard’s sons has been feeling suicidal. And yet she persists.

Hippogryph

Nevertheless, she persisted?

https://www.google.com/search?q=she+persisted&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&sqi=2&ved=0ahUKEwjj2-OAq4jVAhUE4iYKHb5PCBkQ_AUIBigB&biw=1920&bih=974

bobby b

Looking to her original essay on her sons' failings, she informed them that she had once been raped, and they then failed to renounce sex forever. That's really the only concrete accusation she makes in paragraphs full of "they just don't get it."

I think she now simply hates that they might grow up into sexual beings, and (worse yet) MALE sexual beings. Because MEN ARE RAPISTS! THEY RAPED ME!

I hope her sons retain the mental health to shed her influence.

I also hope that they eventually learn to forgive her. Not for her sake, but for their own.

Tom
I’m a survivor of rape and sexual abuse. My sons know this like they know I was once a reporter and I love curries and coffee.

If you're speaking about having been raped often enough so that people associate it with you the way they would a love of curry or coffee perhaps that's a problem that needs to be addressed.

The author blurb at the bottom of the article says that Ms. Allard writes about 'life with a chronic illness'; borderline personality disorder is a chronic illness but probably not the one she 'writes' about.

Farnsworth M. Muldoon

OK, she was born with a deformed hand, might (or might not) have a chronic disease (for which she apparently opted for "alternative" treatment), had lousy parents, and made poor choices of husbands. It is clear from her writings that she is just supremely angry at the world.

Debt ? Not her fault. Single and seven kids ? First three husbands were narcissists, no need for any after that. Seven kids ? Babies are addictive. Takes young kids to Ferguson protest ? Check...and so on to mommy issues, and daddy issues.

To cap it, a headline failure of introspection of Biblical proportions

Disabled mom: Please stop wishing for a healthy baby. Focus instead on nurturing a joyful child.

If you think the article is about how to nurture a joyful child, here the meat of that thesis in its entirety, "Set aside your prayers for a healthy child and focus on nurturing a joyful child." The rest is a litany of her problems.

There are plenty of people in the world who have been dealt worse hands than hers, but who haven't decompensated to her degree, and certainly not to the point of rhetorically poisoning their children for the perceived sins of the fathers.

Sam

That mother's milk has expired.

Jonathan

It's a real mystery how charming young ladies like her end up alone isn't it. Does it never occur to these women that mens behavior towards them might be influenced by their own demeanor? Still, it looks like at least one of her sons could end up a shitlord.

David

For those who may have missed it, here’s another example of dysfunctional feminist parenting:

I had never wanted a son. In fact, I had decidedly not wanted one. I wanted daughters, probably because I am one of two daughters and six granddaughters, no sons or grandsons. This seemed altogether to fit in with my feminism better… There were dark moments in the middle of the night (when all those dark thoughts come), when I felt sick at the thought of something male growing inside me.

Polly Dunning, quoted above, tells us, emphatically, that she’s totally opposed to “casual and ingrained sexism.” And yet she “felt sick” at even the thought of “something male” growing inside her.

Slartibartfast

Not entirely unrelated:

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/jul/14/tfl-scrapping-ladies-and-gentlemen-gender-public-toilets

Notable for this sentence in particular:

"I suspect there are, as is often argued, some biological differences between men and women"

I'm just going to leave that there.

Jon Powers

Someone told me that there is apparently a 50% chance these pregnant feminists will have a boy. That's science for you!

billdehaan

Does it never occur to these women that mens behavior towards them might be influenced by their own demeanor?

Many female acquaintances have accused me of "trying to solve problems with logic". Only the single ones, oddly enough.

But nothing tops the female acquaintance who told me flat out that "you don't get it; your [sic] problem is that you think cause and effect are related".

She had me there.

WTP

Yes this woman is most definitely screwed up. And where she sits right now, in her position of ... idunno wtf she does but it gets attention... she is most definitely a big part of the problem. But a lot of women who experienced what she experienced with the rape and disfigurement, etc., assuming it's all as accurate as related, could make the same arguments but do not. This woman fell into, or was absorbed by, a victimization culture. This thing is a cancer that has been growing for decades now.

Right now in Orlando we have a police officer who is going to get 80% of his pay for the rest of his life for PDT disability because he was a first responder in the Pulse nightclub shooting. The guy is in his mid-late 30's. While I have tremendous respect for first responders, and while I certainly understand that he himself may very well be struggling with what he had to deal with that night, I believe he is a victim not so much of the night club shooting but of this victimization culture. Many, many men (and women) have experienced far worse and not become 80% disabled. And "conservative" pundits in this city are outraged that Orlando's (admittedly POS) mayor is pushing back on the diagnosis in court.

WTP

Heh...Freudian slip...not PDT but PTSD...doh!...of course there is considerable cross-over but not in this instance.

Criticas

This is the same columnist who had written earlier that one of her sons was suicidal, and made it all about what a victim she was. Then followed it up about how her sons perpetuated Rape Culture.

Dalrock asks the salient question:
"The deep irony is that she is accusing her sons of lacking empathy, something Allard displays a truly pathological lack of. What kind of mother would publicly humiliate her suicidal son repeatedly, all under the guise of offering parenting advice?"

https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/a-lack-of-empathy/

David

The deep irony is that she is accusing her sons of lacking empathy, something Allard displays a truly pathological lack of.

Absolutely. She’s gone to a place from which there’s no coming back.

Sporkatus
"you don't get it; your [sic] problem is that you think cause and effect are related".

She had me there.

The author John C. Wright had an insight on this. A modern leftist derives their framework of the universe from the results of everything, *everything* being due to total random chance, because it is required to make things make sense.

Now, no doubt, dear reader, you know many a kind and decent person of Leftwing persuasion who do not match this description. They clearly believe in cause and effect, for they neither attempt to light a fire with rainwater, nor wash their hands in an incinerator.

What they do not believe in is any relation between human causes and human effects. They do not believe virtue leads to happiness or righteousness, nor that vice leads to unhappiness or condemnation.

He goes on at some length:

...what happens is that, since they live in a world without cause and effect, they are unwilling and unable to make any judgment about what actually harms and actually helps. Making such a judgment, remember, in their minds is bigotry, the one sin to be avoided at all costs.

Hence, they can only judge by good intentions. Results do not matter.
...
If there is no right and wrong, there is no such thing as virtue and vice, no winning behaviors that lead to success and no losing behaviors that lead to loss. There is no consequence to any act. At most there are acceptable behaviors which gladden the hearts of your neighbors, and unacceptable behaviors, such as being judgmental (that is, using your evil reasoning powers to perform the evil hate-crime known as stating the obvious).
...
Imagine if your theory of life convinces you life is all purely random chance. Life is a spinning roulette wheel. Now you watch the wheel spin: and the number for the White races of Europe comes up not once or twice, but over and over and over again. After the Europeans win the game the first time, that might be random chance. After they win twenty-five centuries in a row, that seems crooked. If they win every game between the Peloponnesian War and the Cold War, that is clearly a plot.
...
The only success under crooked and malign rule is by definition a crooked and malign success. It is a successful crime.

Hence the Leftist must punish success.

There's more here: http://www.scifiwright.com/2014/03/the-unified-field-theory-of-madness/
Quite a lengthy piece, great stuff.

R. Sherman

Ms. Allard seems to be one of those typical modern parents for whom children are mere props in the drama of their own lives, whose purpose is merely to help focus attention on the parents and how wonderful they are. Children are not stupid. They learn quickly what their roles are and will flee at the earliest opportunity.

WTP

Imagine if your theory of life convinces you life is all purely random chance. Life is a spinning roulette wheel. Now you watch the wheel spin: and the number for the White races of Europe comes up not once or twice, but over and over and over again. After the Europeans win the game the first time, that might be random chance. After they win twenty-five centuries in a row, that seems crooked. If they win every game between the Peloponnesian War and the Cold War, that is clearly a plot.

That. That is what has been taught in many schools, universities, amplified in the media, for decades. Even in a good bit of religion. It is what much of SJW is based on. If you try to refute it, you're a mean, mean, meany not to be listened to. All the more reason to continue to push back on it anyway. Many of us. In large numbers. Shut it down in the schools, universities, etc. How else will it stop, short of violence?

Tom

I was glancing through some of Ms. Allard's output thanks to Farnsworth's link and I want to feel the tiniest smidgen of sympathy for her but can't. She is doing to her children as was apparently done to her all the while thinking she's doing a better job and oblivious to the fact she's not. It appears, should she be telling the truth, and boy is that an open question, that she had horrible parents who are mostly likely mentally ill.

The 'mommy issues' article Farnsworth references is entitled, "My Mother Doesn't Love Me On Mother's Day(Or Any Other Day)" which is not indicative of a healthy mental state. Apropos to the articles on her sons is this snippet,

I wake up in a cold sweat alone in my bed at night, re-living conversations with my teenagers, wondering whether I told them too much about myself and my feelings.

Don't wonder, if strangers are discussing your children on public transportation, the answer is 'Yes', you've told them, and everyone else in the world, too much.

My sympathy lies with her children, who are no doubt suffering as she suffered and some of whom will no doubt grow up just like her and their maternal grandmother.

jabrwok

It's a real mystery how charming young ladies like her end up alone isn't it.

She's still awaiting the epiphany.

TR

My sons won’t rape unconscious women behind a dumpster, and neither will most of the progressive men I know.

Most of them ...

Tom

Most of them ...

Let's count our blessings, she might have used 'some'.

It also makes you wonder, what kind of men are these 'progressives' that she knows?

Sporkatus
If you try to refute it, you're a mean, mean, meany not to be listened to.

He touches on this. There is no refutation because their first principles hold that such success is completely impossible, and their first principles are beyond question (and cognizance) - so anyone who questions whether such cheating exists and is significant is denying the obvious in a way that indicates foolishness, insanity, or evil. Simple facts-based refutation doesn't go deep enough.

The chain of logic is straightforward so far as it goes, but because it's learned habit and not consciously reasoned out, there's no risk of the practitioner accidentally tracing it back to the epistemology it rests on, which is totally fucked.

WTP

The chain of logic is straightforward so far as it goes, but because it's learned habit and not consciously reasoned out, there's no risk of the practitioner accidentally tracing it back to the epistemology it rests on, which is totally fucked.

And I'm quite certain, don't ask how I know this, that this sort of thing is supported by the vast majority of those in the "mental health" business. Psychologists and such are some of the greatest perpetrators of such muddle-headed thinking. They prey on people such as this woman and to some extent the cop I reference above, when they are at their weakest. The very people we rely on, whom we expect to help the vulnerable, make the problem worse. But no one likes to talk about that.

TR

Exactly what is the proportion of progressive men who are predisposed to rape unconscious women behind dumpsters, anyway (not counting Kennedys or Clintons)?

juliaeryn

I think it is impressive her sons appear to be as functional and reasonable as they are. From reading her articles about them and their 'problems' they sound a check of a lot nicer than most teenagers I know and certainly seem to try and be respectful.
Also, it is very brave of the one son to seek refuge in 'alt right' webpages and to defy his mother that way. I am not sure I would have the guts.
Lastly what is the purpose of continually telling your sons about your rape? I would understand she would share that with then to some degree. But why repeatedly raise it with them? It seems like she wants to guilt them into always agreeing with her views on rape culture. I guess it is the ultimate trump card...

juliaeryn

The author also writes about re entering the dating game as a 'necessary evil' as she is 'starved for adult conversation'.
For someone who is so afraid of men...I guess speaking to friends is out of the question.

Joan

"This is not a reflection of something broken or damaged in me"

Actually, yes it is.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

I guess speaking to friends is out of the question.

Absolutely, because to her mind any male friend, even a gay one, would secretly be plotting rape.

MC

Poor bloody lads.

In the bad old days of the patriarchy, when single motherhood was frowned on, she would have had to stick with the father of her children, who would be a buffer between them and her hatefulness, or she'd have died a childless spinster, having only occasionally traumatised children, the ones that knew her has 'Great Aunt Bitterbitch'.

R. Sherman

Also, it is very brave of the one son to seek refuge in 'alt right' webpages and to defy his mother that way.

Query, what in her mind constitutes "alt-right?" Ashe Schow? Christina Hoff Sommers? Instapundit? Anything which even mildly disagrees with her world view?

R. Sherman

Also, it is very brave of the one son to seek refuge in 'alt right' webpages and to defy his mother that way.

Query, what in her mind constitutes "alt-right?" Ashe Schow? Christina Hoff Sommers? Instapundit? Anything which even mildly disagrees with her world view?

R. Sherman

Oops. Sorry for the double post. I hope you're in a forgiving mood.

David

I hope you’re in a forgiving mood.

I’m positively seething with bonhomie.

Pogonip

BonHOMIe?

Sexist.

Eagle

Query, what in her mind constitutes "alt-right?"

She stands at the Left Pole. All directions are to the right.
Not sure who said that, but akin to someone standing at the north pole, where all directions are south.

I think I explained that correctly?

PiperPaul

"I suspect there are, as is often argued, some biological differences between men and women"

I keep saying that once computers and the internet became ubiquitous many peoples' brains fell out. "Nothing is certain anymore!", they aggressively asserted, wielding bike locks.

Thomas Fuller
I keep saying that once computers and the internet became ubiquitous many peoples' brains fell out.

That's an interesting idea. Before personal computers arrived, mistakes were often hard to put right (e.g. when using a typewriter you had to faff about with an eraser or white-out, or scrap the page and start again). You had to think more carefully about what you were doing. That has now been devalued to the extent that nothing much generated with computers need be permanent. It's all up for grabs; might some of that mindset have leached into the general consciousness?

Darleen

Query, what in her mind constitutes "alt-right?

Anyone who disagrees with her.

"alt-right" is now a SHUTUP term, like "racist, sexist, Islamophobe, homophobe" etc. Actual members of what could be described as alt-right could meet in the complimentary-breakfast room of a Best Western in Fort Wayne, Indiana and still have empty seats.

Pogonip

Well, MY boy has more honor, integrity, and intelligence than a million feminists put together. And I wish I could take her boys and give them a decent life.

dicentra

The body has a "hypothermia protocol" wherein the limbs are allowed to freeze off to protect the core. It turns out the brain has a similar protocol—a brain in distress shuts off its higher functions first, progressing through ever-more-basic functions until consciousness itself is shut off in favor of the lizard brain's regulation of heartbeat and respiration.

I've been treated to a first-hand experience of the brain's prioritization protocol for the past few years, thanks to what I now know is reactive hypoglycemia, incident to insulin resistance—my pancreas overproduces insulin in response to a glucose load so that when my blood glucose falls, it really falls.

The result is neuroglycopenia, the shortage of glucose to the brain.

(Bear with me, here; I do have a point.)

Extreme neuroglycopenia results in coma and even death, which I haven't come close to; instead, I find out what happens when some of my brain's higher functions are disabled, and it seems awfully similar to what we see with the more demented SJWs:

— Black & white thinking: It's all or nothing; bosom buddy or mortal enemy; ecstasy or agony. Mostly agony.

— Excessive emotionalism: Frequent crying jags during my drive to and from work. Getting into the car is always preceded by physical activity, which draws down blood glucose. Frequent crying jags in the evenings, when the day's meals and meds have cleared my system. A glass of milk or OJ often remedies the tears in a startlingly short time.

— Feeling exquisitely singled out and persecuted by God/society, while "everyone else" has everything they want.

— Feeling that everyone is an unfeeling, unsympathetic monster who lacks compassion and empathy. (Because they don't know how badly I'm suffering.)

— Feeling that anything anyone would tell me (advice, perspective) is COLD, INHUMANE LOGIC when commiseration (emotion) is so desperately needed.

— General hostility toward "normals," who are so EFFING blind and uncaring, because they're not making my pain go away.

— Deep and urgent despair, which at its worst became suicidal ideation. (Oddly enough, 3 months of neurofeedback therapy took the suicidal edge off the neuroglycopenia.)

When my glucose levels out, my higher functions are restored, and I can cope with my stupid life, maintain perspective, accept what others say to me, not feel persecuted, not think ill of others, and face life without (too much) despair.

It's scary how different those two states are, and how when I'm in one state I am absolutely unable to think (or "think") in the same way that I did in the other. I'm literally of two minds.

Obviously, I do not know what kind of distress has caused another person's brain to shut off its higher functions. But shut off they are, whether from psychological trauma or bad physiology, whether remediable or not.

Which means that I vacillate between feeling bad for people whose higher functions are Just Not There (it's extremely distressing) and feeling bad for the people who must endure the results of someone else's bad brain.

Geoffrey

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"

I have never felt this to be more literal, than a woman hunting down the speck of sexism in her sons every action, whilst she is blinded by the plank of sexism in her own eye.

I'm inclined to agree with Dicentra to at least some degree. This kind of failure of basic human decency must originate from more than simply being a bad person. Something is wrong with her on a fundamental level.

The blame, then, goes with anyone of otherwise sound mind who perpetuates her behavior, and the child protective services of her country who doesn't take her children away after she publicly mentions one is suicidal and still berates him in public.

Daniel Ream

borderline personality disorder is a chronic illness but probably not the one she 'writes' about.

Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

Which means that I vacillate between feeling bad for people whose higher functions are Just Not There and feeling bad for the people who must endure the results of someone else's bad brain.

Pace a very good therapist friend of mine, you can feel sorry for a rabid dog - it's not the dog's fault that it's rabid - while still not letting it get close enough to hurt you.

Bemused

Unfit mother, save the kids quick.

Hammond Aikes


"OK, she was born with a deformed hand...
...there are plenty of people in the world who have been dealt worse hands than hers..."
-----F.M. Muldoon

Thank you for that.

Alice

And do note that one of Ms Allard’s sons has been feeling suicidal. And yet she persists.

It's called evil.

Zionist Overlord #73

Plank? Isn't it a beam in the speaker's eye? Maybe it's a different translation...

David

It’s called evil.

Well, some people get broken, or break themselves, in ways that can’t be fixed. In a rather horrible sense, they embrace a kind of destiny. And so Ms Allard doesn’t learn, and will not allow herself to learn, and despite the warnings of onlookers, and the effects on her own children, she persists. If you trawl through Ms Allard’s Twitter feed, you’ll see there’s no pause to reflect on her own actions and their consequences, none at all, even when pleaded with to do just that. Instead, every unflattering response from readers of her articles, whether scornful or concerned, is immediately construed as a validation of her behaviour.

It seems that Ms Allard’s need to be righteously feminist and crusading - which is to say, her vanity - trumps all else. And conveniently, that crusading just happens to excuse quite a bit of sadism.

Burnsie

Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

Yep. And once you see it, or even suspect it, one begins to wonder about everything she claims. For example, was she in fact sexually abused and raped? Or is that just a false claim that allows her to wear the cloak of victimhood and deflect all criticism for her behavior?

Jen

implying, based on nothing, that her own sons, simply by virtue of being white and male, aren’t “safe” to be around.

Wonder what she'd make of this.

https://twitter.com/BasedMonitored/status/885546950661206016

Jonathan

An interesting and somewhat related article by Theodore Dalrymple.

I suppose that the mania for giving publicity to one’s own life arises from the feeling that what is only private cannot be of any importance, a feeling that is promoted by the publicity given to the supposedly intimate details of the lives of celebrities.

Turning ones life into a soap opera in order to feel alive.

I think the same dynamic (if I may call it such) is at work in the current vogue for transsexualism: “You must recognize me and not recognize me at the same time.”

Strange Days Indeed.

David

Wonder what she’d make of this.

Ugh. Ah, but some kinds of “toxic masculinity” - say, the kind that isn’t imaginary and which doesn’t reinforce fashionable leftist conceits - should pass unremarked. It’s the feminist way.

David

Re Dalrymple, this caught my eye:

The demand for recognition and nonrecognition at the same time is surely one of the reasons for the outbreak of mass self-mutilation in the Western world in an age of celebrity. A person who treats his face and body like an ironmongery store can hardly desire or expect that you fail to notice it, but at the same time demands that you make no comment about it, draw no conclusions from it, express no aversion toward it, and treat him no differently because of it. You must accept him as he is, however he is, because he has an inalienable right to such acceptance.

Which reminded me of this.

Geezer

Maybe it's a different translation.

Indeed.

Jonathan

Wonder what she'd make of this.

That's nothing. Here's the real tragedy.

Jason Brose

Same person?
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/jody-allard/seattle-washington-/jody-allard-jody-knight-james-johnson-euphrasie-jsj-livejournal-craigslist-internet-1038432

Mags

Ah, but some kinds of “toxic masculinity” - say, the kind that isn’t imaginary and which doesn’t reinforce fashionable leftist conceits - should pass unremarked. It’s the feminist way.

The 'patriarchy' doesn't count when brown people do it, silly.

Sonny Wayze

Dating, hmmm? I think I'm beginning to understand why Webb Wilder wrote 'You Might Be Lonely For A reason'.

David

The ‘patriarchy’ doesn’t count when brown people do it, silly.

According to quite a few feminists, including our dear friend Laurie Penny, those of us who dislike the idea of women being gratuitously assaulted only ever dislike it when the people doing the assaulting have brown skin. Laurie has aired this claim several times, on Twitter and the BBC, but so far as I can tell she’s yet to offer anything approaching evidence to support it. This, however, is the preferred excuse for why she and others tend to disregard actual, grievous misogyny – from gang molestation to acid attacks – in favour of complaining at great length about something trivial or imaginary, and involving people whose skin is the right colour for feminist scolding.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Same person?

Allard and her sometime-babydaddy...Allard's seven kids are told that the animals went to the doctor...Allard is on disability...

Seven kids, baby-daddy, disability - that all would be too much of a coincidence not to be, and abusing animals would also fit what appears to be the much bigger underlying problem.

Meanwhile, in the world of conflicting identity groups, there appears to be a slight problem.

Pride in London has been accused of Islamophobia after anti-Muslim signs allegedly appeared in the event’s parade...Now leaders from the East London Mosque have accused organisers of igniting hate by allowing the group placards bearing the words “Allah is gay”...

Officials have been in deliberations since the event to determine which group is more favored under what circumstances.

champ

"But my mother isn't dead; she just doesn't want me."

Gee, I wonder why....

Darleen

Same person?

Looks like it.

MC

I'm sure I have asked this before, but isn't borderline personality disorder just being an arsehole?

A number of writers David quotes claim to suffer from BPD but they also always seem to be revelling in their behaviour, rather than seeking treatment.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

I'm sure I have asked this before, but isn't borderline personality disorder just being an arsehole?

Not true BPD, though people with true BPD may be Arschlöcher, not all Arschlöcher are BPD. the actual DSM diagnostic criteria are here (p6).

In general, being an Arschloch better fits the criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder (p2 above), but one with APD would rather claim to be BPD as it is something that generally would elicit more sympathy.

Regarding BPD, Arschlöcher, and I don't recall offhand if it was decided whether this site is Poe's Law written in a 144 point bold typeface, but the author thinks self-diagnosis of mental conditions are valid.

I have been told for years by neurotypicals that my self diagnoses are not valid, that I’m just seeking attention...or that I’m just “pretending” to have BPD to be unique and special.

Read the whole thing, as the kids say, and don't gender your pets !

In conclusion, if you self diagnose, you are valid. You don’t have to listen to the neurotypicals anymore and you are free to self diagnose. Go forth and be neurodivergents.

If this isn't a parody site, and it is hard to tell, the author is an a Japanese Bullet Crazytrain.

Geezer

borderline personality disorder

The folks at Wikipedia have an article on the subject.

Hal

It’s called evil.

Well, some people get broken, or break themselves, in ways that can’t be fixed. In a rather horrible sense, they embrace a kind of destiny.

A bit in parallel, I'm noting all the headlines over the most recent set of acid attacks in London---and apparently yes, the most recent set . . . .

Harding said that 150-years-ago, in Victorian times, acid was often used as a weapon by criminals, and in recent years it has seen a resurgence. "It's just come back into vogue", he said. "It's never really gone away, it's just now being reported much more, it's such a barbaric weapon."

There is a comment from the same article of;

Shah said gangs were thought to be favouring acid as a weapon due to the fact that it is cheap and easily available. "In the UK there aren't strict controls on the use of acid", he said, "96% sulphuric acid can be purchased from hardware stores without any ID or a license. When there are controls around other weapons such as guns and knives it becomes a weapon of choice."

However, another of the day's collection of news announces that Replica firearms putting Birmingham teens at risk as gun crime surges and particularly;

The region has been hit by a spike in gun crime - in just three month there has been 57 shootings in the West Midlands - – more than Greater Manchester, Merseyside and West Yorkshire combined over the same period.

Chief Superintendent Rachel Jones, force lead for gun crime, said tonight: “We will not tolerate the recent surge in gun crime and will continue to bring perpetrators to justice.”

---Particularly with the specification of shooting and not just waving about what appears to be a pistol, the issue isn't what is used, the issue is the willingness to use . . . Pistol, acid . . .

So what's the use of restricting firearms and perfectly useful items like knives when those who can use them are inconvenienced, and those who will use them for crimes---the evil---use 'em anyway?

Pogonip

While we're on the subject of mothering, I'd like to mention that little Cthulhu is all grown up. He sleeps, eats, and poops, so it's rather like having a cat, except the furniture doesn't get clawed.

Pogonip

I would like to say a word about this "neurotypical" bullshit. Anyone who uses autism for diversity points is absolutely despicable. Autism's a terrible handicap to have to live with. At best, every language, your native language included, is a foreign language. I speak with 38 years' worth of experience with autism. Trivializing this terrible condition to gain diversity points for yourself is unspeakable.

Jonathan

So what's the use of restricting firearms and perfectly useful items like knives when those who can use them are inconvenienced, and those who will use them for crimes---the evil---use 'em anyway?

It's all about control Hal.

David

Looks like it.

On the upside, she has lost a bit of weight.

What?

Hal

It's all about control Hal.

Aahhhhh, but as rather regularly demonstrated by the de facto level of chaos, control of what?

David

Robert Stacy McCain has some thoughts on the unhappy Ms Allard:

Here, then, we find Jody Allard proclaiming that all males (including her own teenage sons) are complicit in “rape culture,” a paranoid conspiracy theory that views every manifestation of male heterosexuality as a potential threat of violence from which no woman is safe. When her sons (quite naturally) protest against this insulting anti-male rhetoric, Ms. Allard responds by turning their claims of innocence into proof of guilt: To deny blame for “rape culture” is… rape culture.

There’s more. None of it particularly flattering.

Squires

"I suspect there are, as is often argued, some biological differences between men and women"

Funny, it only took to me until about the fifth grade to suspect that, shortly after I got my first pubic hairs, and some of the girls grew their first tits.

But nothing tops the female acquaintance who told me flat out that "you don't get it; your [sic] problem is that you think cause and effect are related".

Wise of her to be wary of you, lest you turn her into a newt.

David

and some of the girls grew their first tits

You mean they have more than one set, like baby teeth?

PiperPaul

"To deny blame for “rape culture” is… rape culture."

That's a perfect example of Kafkatrapping, n'est-ce-pas?

Pogonip

Hi David,

Yes, we have more than one set. Each set that grows out responds more strongly to gravity than the set before.

David

Yes, we have more than one set.

[ Updates files accordingly. ]

PiperPaul


David, the top set grow in first.

David

Is it too early to crack open the wine?

Squires

Dicentra - I ask this out of more than idle curiousity: When in this altered state, does it also affect dreams? Specifically can it cause a long period in which a person might not dream, or have any recollection of dreaming, at all?

David - What Pogonip said.

WTP

While trying to find info on why the father(s) of these boys haven't stepped in, I ran across this. Searched here for narcissism and scanned the comments nit seeing anything. Am I the first to see that. Jody Allard wrote an article on narcissistic parenting for WaPo back in January?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2017/01/05/a-generation-of-narcissists-is-becoming-parents-what-now/?utm_term=.431176e67fd6#comments

Darleen

Re: 'don't gender your pets'

Sex and gender are separate things and are in no way intertwined

I stopped reading right there ... since something along the lines of 99.05 to 99.5 percent of people's 'gender identity' aligns with their biological sex, that degree of correlation more than suggests causation.

Hell, the majority of lifetime cigarette smokers will make it to old age, that hasn't stopped government's anti-tobacco crusade based on "cigarettes are proven to kill you" stats that are many times less impressive than the gender/sex one.

Spiny Norman

Smokers who die of lung cancer, emphysema or heart disease in their 80s or 90s are still included in the "tobacco kills" stats. Would they have lived longer had they never smoked? No one knows, honestly.

I don't think anyone doubts that long-term tobacco smoking is unhealthy, and people with a family history of cancer or heart disease are best off avoiding it, but the hyperbole is just ridiculous.

BeckoningChasm

While the article is a pretty scary depiction of mental illness, it's a bit scarier to think that an editor and a publisher looked over her work and, instead of saying "We need to get her some help," said "Run this as is."

Hopp Singg

So what's the use of restricting firearms and perfectly useful items like knives when those who can use them are inconvenienced, and those who will use them for crimes---the evil---use 'em anyway?

Depends which side you're on.

Boatswain's Mate

An update on one of Jody Allard's sons (which deliciously has to grate on Mummy of the Year):

It's happening: the 19-year-old Jared Allard, son of insane feminist writer Jody Allard, has submitted his resume to Daily Wire Editor-in-Chief Ben Shapiro after being offered a possible internship during a segment on Friday's Ben Shapiro Show podcast.

The request was made by Shapiro after Allard wrote a particularly disturbing post for feminist blog Role Reboot in which she called her boys, and all other men, "not safe," seemingly suggesting they are prospective rapists.

“Okay, if the son of Jody Allard is watching this right now, please write me an email,” said Shapiro during the podcast. “I would be happy to have you intern with us over at The Daily Wire. I think you deserve better than what your mother has provided to you: a label as a potential rapist.”

http://www.dailywire.com/news/18762/son-crazy-feminist-writer-sends-resume-ben-shapiro-amanda-prestigiacomo

Daniel Ream

Trivializing [autism] to gain diversity points for yourself is unspeakable.

It's a personal boogeyman of mine, as well. I have a good friend who has what is perversely called "undiagnosed Asperger's" (basically, he has most of the symptoms but not at a sufficient level to seriously impair his ability to hold a job or maintain some personal relationships). It is heartbreaking to see how hurt he is when he puts his foot in his mouth or behaves inappropriately in a social situation and people react entirely reasonably, because he's trying so damned hard and on some level he knows he's never going to get this right. He's 43.

I know a single mother whose husband lit out for the opposite coast when the severity of their son's autism became apparent. The child's essentially unmanageable, has no sense of self-preservation, and is now large enough that when he has a tantrum she can't control him. It is almost a certainty that he's going to severely injure or kill himself eventually.

When people claim autism either for style points or as a cover for Cluster B personality disorders, I always want to say "True autists cannot learn correct social behaviour. I'm betting I and this corkscrew could teach you proper social behaviour in about fifteen minutes."

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