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April 25, 2022

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Mike D

Therapist needs therapist shock.

Jen

Readers may also wish to ponder the prospects of a father-son relationship premised on a dogmatic, near-hysterical disdain for maleness, for “anything deemed masculine.”

That.

randian

It occurs to me that this is not an entirely happy thing for a new mother to tell her husband, the father of their child. Indeed, a thing to brag about.

And yet women demean men like this all the time, with no sense of self-awareness and no worry of reproach.

Stephanie Richer

Recovering schmuck

He needs to work harder at that.

Ping!

Cuo

This is parody, right, from the Babylon Bee?

Stephanie Richer

BTW, I never considered myself a feminist nor felt compelled to champion womanhood . . . but people like this made me change my mind: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10749507/NPR-blasted-review-controversial-transgender-authors-violent-horror-novel-depicts-JK-Rowling-death.html

I think society should not have blurred lines until we can all color within them.

David

Ping!

Bless you, madam. Should someone attempt to guess your age, may their estimate be wildly and pleasingly inaccurate.

Jacob

Readers may also wish to ponder the prospects of a father-son relationship premised on a dogmatic, near-hysterical disdain for maleness, for “anything deemed masculine.”

Impregnating his wife must have been an ordeal.

Joan

Why does he dress like Timmy Mallett?

kfg

Felt ill if someone mentioned a wrench or another tool.

How do you get through life this way if you see a tool every time you look in a mirror?

David

Why does he dress like Timmy Mallett?

[ From behind the bar, sounds of muffled snorting. ]

[+]

Again, it’s curious how the author’s professed openness – all this free-and-easy blurring of gender lines – seems to require quite a lot of nudging and censorship, and the anxious hiding away of objects deemed too manly. It seems strangely uptight and proscriptive.

That.

Burnsie

Poster boy for the "weak men make hard times" part of the cycle.

And the vanity. Has there ever been a time in history when weak men paraded their weakness so proudly?

asiaseen

Mr Deitcher is not qualified to breed.

Having been fucked around by my bank yet again (the last time lasted 8 weeks and cost a certain leading UK bank money) I have now been able to contribute a few copperd from my Tibetan begging bowl.

asiaseen

coppers, dammit, coppers.

David

I have now been able to contribute a few coppers from my Tibetan begging bowl.

Bless you. May your enemies know nights of loud, relentless snoring.

Joan

My body spiralled into panic any time I attempted manual labour.

He's a real catch.

BT

Given that Mr Deitcher was brought up by an effeminate dad, and grew up to be such a weak, hysterical emotionally dysfunctional adult, it’s kind of ironic he’d list parental ineptitude as a feature of manly fathers

David

Has there ever been a time in history when weak men paraded their weakness so proudly?

Incompetence and neuroticism are odd ways to signal status, and yet here we are.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Looking over his other Deep Thoughts™ for some reason the term "minestrone hoagy" comes to mind.

pst314

Jay Deitcher, a social worker and therapist, a declarer of pronouns, and, it seems, someone accustomed to the aforementioned mental spiralling

Funny, isn't it, how so many therapists and social workers are themselves more than a little dysfunctional.

Mat

As always with these kinds of articles, hard to separate the genuine cluelessness, the feigned cluelessness, the blatant cluelessness. "We took turns cuddling him against our bare chests", and no editor or commenter is going to say the obvious thing - good for you, but there are still physical differences between men and women affecting the bonding with a baby. A feminist father writes an article, the kind of article that's common among feminist mothers, about coming to terms with the icky boyishness of their male children, and nobody is going to say the obvious thing - were you not a boy yourself, or did you not know any boys when you were growing up?

But some of the genuine cluelessness comes from low birth rates, so that new parents are dealing with babies for the first time in their lives, with no experience looking after younger siblings and so on. This is especially the case for men who have to be cautious about establishing rapports with children. The guy's great grandmother would have said the kid's going through a normal phase, it's no reflection on me as a mother, and I have enough on my plate with the other kids that I can't make a drama out of it. Perspective, long-term focus, modesty of aims, respect for the autonomy of the child, all built into the system. Instead, new parents these days have to relearn obvious things, and are evidently so shocked about it that they write to the newspapers about it.

asiaseen

so many therapists and social workers are themselves more than a little dysfunctional

Takes one to know one?

APL

"My body spiralled into panic any time I attempted manual labour.

So basically a completely useless git.

Has there ever been a time in history when weak men paraded their weakness so proudly?

That.

Horace Dunn

Doesn't Mr Deitcher realise that, if he's so keen to be a truly great dad, one starting point might be to try being just a tiny bit less self-involved?

David

[ Points to Heresy Room. ]

asiaseen

might be to try being just a tiny bit less self-involved?

Or, putting it another way - not so far up his own fundament.

Mags

Mr Deitcher is now bragging that “big manly men are being triggered by my essay.”

Says the man triggered by a baby's coverall with footballs on it.

Karen M

Should someone attempt to guess your age, may their estimate be wildly and pleasingly inaccurate.

I wish. :-)

David

I wish. :-)

It can happen, as I discovered recently, when a niece’s new husband assumed I was a good decade younger than I am. He’s now, obviously, my favourite nephew.

Not that I’m bragging, you understand.

David

[ Licks own eyebrows. ]

ComputerLabRat

Good grief this guy writes like those hysterical, overwrought females from Scary Mommy and Everyday Feminism. Weak men making hard times indeed!

Oh, and Mother's Day gifts procured via the Amazon.us button - I'm early for once, and hopefully you get a tip from the process.

David

Oh, and Mother’s Day gifts procured via the Amazon.us button – I’m early for once, and hopefully you get a tip from the process.

I do. And bless you, madam. May you finally get a chance to use that witty come-back.

Adam

Investment opportunity detected: Smelling salts for the Progressive Male

Adam

My wife's favorite vehicle is our F150 4x4.

Smelling salts for Mister Deichter!

David

Smelling salts for the Progressive Male

Yet still not quite as highly strung as the Progressive Female.

MikeM_inMD

Mr. Deitcher is a father now, so it's time for him to stop dressing like an early 1990s rapper (even DJ Jazzy Jazz doesn't dress like that now). And he should try wearing his hats straight - it's a lot more comfortable.

Richard (Dick) Smacky

David... surely that article is satire.

ccscientist

It must be tough being triggered by tools when you are yourself a tool.

I never had a problem admitting that my wife could bond with the kids in ways I could not. After all, she carried them and nursed them. When she is sitting talking with my now-grown girls (or when they were young), I give/gave them space because that is a good thing. But there are also times when the kids call for me and that is good too.

The idea that all masculinity is toxic is such a sick myth. See what your wife/GF does when you walk by a homeless guy, a barking dog, or a dangerous looking situation--she makes sure that you are between her and the danger. Studies of hunter cultures have shown that when men come home from a successful hunt, not only is their testosterone elevated, but their nurturing hormones are also elevated, and they in fact take actions to provide resources for people more. A manly man protects people, rescues people, goes to someone's home who can't do things and fixes stuff for them, helps people move furniture. During the Houston hurricane a few years ago, manly men with beards in fishing boats came by the hundreds to rescue people--without being asked, without pay. There were no soy-bois doing rescues. None.

I also have news for mr Deitcher, women do not prefer a weak effeminate man. When a man gets his tools out and fixes something or paints a bedroom, it is a big turn-on for the wife. Ask around. If his social work job was just a "gig" that is also not a good sign for his marriage.

Peter J

Felt ill if someone mentioned a wrench or another tool.

Poser or mentalist?

David

Poser or mentalist?

If someone feels compelled to pretend to be neurotic - say, the kind of person who spirals into darkness at the thought of a shirt with a tractor on it, and who is made ill by even the mention of tools - then the difference seems quite slim.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

David... surely that article is satire.

Alas, it isn't; ...she and her female friends had branded me as asexual. I shrugged it off, somewhat honored that I transcended sex. .

Unfortunately, it doesn't get better; Cardi B Got Me Through My Son’s Circumcision.

...so it's time for him to stop dressing like an early 1990s rapper...

Done!

ComputerLabRat

My wife's favorite vehicle is our F150 4x4.

Amen, sister! I love my F150 STX with both my X chromosomes. And I am lucky enough to have use of an old F150 4x4 for my field work, too.

Seriously, these overwrought soyboys and screeching feminist harridans need to stem that emotional diarrhea before the rest of the world drowns in it. Ugh.

Joe Ego

my wife, always one to joke, even soon after giving birth, bragged that she had a connection to our new baby that I could never attain because men couldn’t bond with babies like women could.

That's rather harsh for a joke.

My body spiralled into panic any time I attempted manual labour.

Oh...

I immediately cut my hours at my social work gig, taking on the role of caregiving full time…

It is amazing how much effort he won't put into self-development or providing for his family. I feel sad for the kids and what seems likely to happen to his parents' relationship.

Impregnating his wife must have been an ordeal.

Given the manual labor comment, it was probably just an emotional ordeal.

Squires

I envisioned him on a football field, barrelling through mega-muscled opponents. Imagined him waxing a sports car on a warm summer day.

"I imagined my son living a good life and becoming the sort of man that shows how little of a man I really am, and I shat the bed."

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Given the manual labor comment, it was probably just an emotional ordeal.

You would be correct.

ccscientist

I think his problem makes sense: he is so unable to act manly that even a child's shirt with dozers reminds him of his wimpiness, and thus the panic. Or he could, you know, watch youtube vids of how to use tools...hahaha of course not. Or he could just...not care about being inadequate, just get along with what he can do. nah

David

You would be correct.

[ Peers over spectacles. ]

I don’t think he’s quite grasping what it is he’s telling us.

Squires

Also:
Deitcher leaning into the tractor life.

That is a skidsteer, you fucking heathen.

And it's not moving an inch with a kid on your lap.

Darleen

I think society should not have blurred lines until we can all color within them.

Oh my goodness, that is a keeper quote worthy of a counted-cross sampler ... or laser cut out plaque, depending on one's hobby of choice.

Hopp singg

Now do the part where he accidentally got an erection once and tried to run away from it.

ccscientist

There have always been people who were squeemish about the physicality of life and sex in particular. In the past, they wrapped it in religious virtue garb. Now they build a whole politics around it. They are wrong either way.

Darleen

women do not prefer a weak effeminate man

Actually, some women do. Indeed, the coupling of the very dominate female and the timid man has been a stereotype in fiction of all media for some time, right along side the mama's boy.

*If* I give this milquetoast any credibility, that his wife would "joke" that he could never bond with the child like she could, he married an abuser and he knows it. Indeed, maybe his efforts in trying to make his son as ineffectual in life as he is, is his passive revenge on his wife.

I feel sorry for this child.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Now do the part where he accidentally got an erection once and tried to run away from it.

That is pretty much covered in the articles linked above, like this one.

Though I struggled most of my life to understand my identity, three months ago, I was forced to accept it. My wife and I were cuddling on our living room couch...We started touching, and the clothes came off, but then I froze, spiraling directly into fight-or-flight mode. My entire body screamed in panic that I couldn't do this, making it so there was no chance I could perform. I was forcing myself to do something I didn’t want to do at that moment.

He is asexual, you see, and a licensed therapist.

The ace community has always thrived online, so many of the best resources are on TikTok, Tumblr, Facebook, and Instagram.

Evidently a well learned licensed therapist.

Honestly, this bozo is not doing himself or anyone else any favors by playing up every negative neurotic Jewish male stereotype. He makes every character Woody Allen played look like Mad Jack Churchill.

Steve E

Funny, isn't it, how so many therapists and social workers are themselves more than a little dysfunctional.

My Uni had a large social work program. It was easy to tell who was in the program. This was in the late 70s early 80s. Punk was big. A lot of piercings, mohawk hair cuts, shaved heads, tats, black makeup, Doc Martens and neurotic behaviour. Funny how things haven't changed much since then.

Steve E

When a man gets his tools out and fixes something or paints a bedroom, it is a big turn-on for the wife.

Since November of last year I've replaced all the baseboards and door moulding in the house and painted the entire upper floor.

It has left me exhausted. Nudge, nudge, wink, wink. Not sure if it was the mitre saw or the pneumatic brad nailer that did it for the wife.

pst314

Indeed, maybe his efforts in trying to make his son as ineffectual in life as he is, is his passive revenge on his wife.

Or perhaps he does not want to be shamed by a son who is more manly than him.

Joe Ego

I am inclined to mentally file this person into the group of people who politically supports childhood grooming, liberalizing porn availability, series like (Rape) of Thrones or Big Mouth, explicit pride parades on public streets, and all kinds of other libertine policies. Meanwhile it took a minor miracle -- he somehow attracted a sexually aggressive female -- for him to conceive a child.

Maybe he is more private and circumspect, but his public writing weighs heavily against that.

pst314

He makes every character Woody Allen played look like Mad Jack Churchill.

I wonder how popular Woody Allen's films are in Israel, seeing as it seems like a nation with little use for neurotic ineffectual weaklings.

Princess Cutekitten

Gretchen seems nice.

And looks perfectly normal.

ccscientist

Darleen: a dominant bully wife and a weak husband may get together and are hilarious in a comedy but I would not call it healthy or likely to be happy--I am sure you would agree.
I was of course referring to what women prefer in surveys, and it is never this guy.
Deitcher can't even diagnose himself. Asexual is simply not interested in sex. Someone who freaks out when naked with their wife is either not heterosexual or has performance anxiety (afraid he will fail, which of course ruins an erection so self-fulfilling). Given his other hangups, I would say the latter.

LadyTheo

That link to the NPR review of the tranny author's book on hunting TERFs (of course, he is an autogynephile) illustrates vividly that these men are women-hating bullies. They hate women because women ARE what they wish they were--and are a constant reminder that they will never be women. These men are dangerous--I would like to see an aggregator of all of their physically abusive acts against women.

John

The final paragraph was indeed unexpectedly upbeat. Certainly in the light of a father deranged enough to proudly photograph his toddler son playing with a doll in a pink pram.

I have zero wish to read this persons twitter feed but would not be at all surprised if he received some pretty brutal attacks from his erstwhile supporters for this tractorial sacrilege. The $64,000 question is what he values more highly, his sons well-being and happiness or, more likely, his own twisted beliefs and self-esteem.

pst314

would not be at all surprised if he received some pretty brutal attacks from his erstwhile supporters for this tractorial sacrilege.

Possibly even receive an ominous tractoria.

WTP

of course, he is an autogynephile

Of course. Of course. An autogynephile. WTF World?

Dyspeptic Curmudgeon

John: "The $64,000 question is what he values more highly, his sons well-being and happiness or, more likely, his own twisted beliefs and self-esteem."

Ummm, What is narcissism?

Given that this 'man' seems to be the antithesis of actual manhood, how sure are we that the boy is actually *his* son? As a first order approximation I would posit that p=~.0009765..

Darleen

Given his other hangups, I would say the latter.

Oh, I very much agree. This guy is going through the DSM and filling in blackout on his Bingo card. Sheesh.

APL

They hate women because women ARE what they wish they were

Wasn't that pretty much "Silence of the Lambs" Buffalo Bill ?

Daniel Ream

There have always been people who were squeemish about the physicality of life and sex in particular

Catharist heretics.

[ checks watch ]

By the Pope, would you look at the time.

Squires

By the Pope, would you look at the time.

Don't kill the messenger?

pst314

Soy boy hates cars and is traumatized by sidewalk repair: https://mobile.twitter.com/yitgordon/status/1517934193782755329

Alex DeWynter
Impregnating his wife must have been an ordeal.

Dollars to doughnuts the kid actually isn't even his.

pst314

Skoptsy sect/cult: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skoptsy

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Soy boy hates cars and is traumatized by sidewalk repair:

From the replies...

You could - and stay with me now - cross the street to the other side where there is a sidewalk.

That, or walk on the grass, however, he is also scared of trucks, especially ones with lift kits - not that he would know what that is, but as long as it makes the truck look bigger than it is, all is swell.

Alex DeWynter
From the replies...

You could - and stay with me now - cross the street to the other side where there is a sidewalk.

Doll Baby superfan weighs in with:

How are there this many people failing to realize that your point is that if a road were being repaired an temporary alternative would be present?

And gets absolutely dragged.

Alan

“temporarily suspending article commenting.” This, we’re told, is in order to “create a safe and engaging place for users to connect over interests and passions.” Yes, we will engage and connect by not talking about things

Funny which articles we're not supposed to reply to.

TomJ
That, or walk on the grass, however, he is also scared of trucks, especially ones with lift kits - not that he would know what that is, but as long as it makes the truck look bigger than it is, all is swell.

To be fair, that vehicle is bloody ridiculous.

Apropos of nothing, I am still annoyed that on the occasion someone say me getting out of my Smart Roadster on my return to the Mess and said to me "I'm surprised a big rugby player like you isn't driving something like a Land Rover instead of that little thing," it was hours before I realised the perfect, accurate response would have been, "I'm not trying to compensate for anything."

Can't imagine what brought that story to mind.

David

Funny which articles we’re not supposed to reply to.

Increasingly often, it does seem that people writing on certain topics are to be spared the indignity of discussion or disagreement. Say, people who use their own small children as a political experiment. And so, Mr Deitcher can continue on his way, seemingly untroubled by further reflection, and boasting of people quoting his own “dope lines.” As if his words could only be quoted for the purposes of admiration.

See second update to post.

HarvardR

My body spiralled into panic any time I attempted manual labour.

Ah, the epic drama, nay, the sheer tragic humanity that must occur within the confines of the automobile when a tire springs a flat.

Richard Cranium
To be fair, that vehicle is bloody ridiculous.

I wouldn't drive one of those myself. (I've been given loaners slightly less tall and didn't care to revisit driving a 2 1/2 ton military truck from my youth.) But, and this is a big but (giggity), if you've ever driven behind something like that vehicle, you'd want either a periscope or a similar sized vehicle to see things like traffic lights which are blocked by the monster in front of you.

Daniel Ream

to see things like traffic lights which are blocked by the monster in front of you

I know a couple of traffic engineers and they told me that the prevalence of minivans, SUVs and 18-wheel transport trucks is wreaking havoc with traffic patterns because they block sight lines that are designed according to standards from the 70s when they weren't all over the roads.

Nikw211

I told myself that to do so I needed to distance myself from anything deemed masculine

my wife, always one to joke, even soon after giving birth, bragged that she had a connection to our new baby that I could never attain

When I met my wife at 28, I was terrified of the prospect of sex, but I yearned to be close to her romantically ... but in my head, at times, I was petrified and alone, often shutting down when sex was in the air ...


Does his wife ever read what he writes?

Do his wife's friends? His in-laws?

David

Does his wife ever read what he writes?
Do his wife’s friends? His in-laws?

It is, I think, one of those articles, now practically a genre in progressive circles, where the obvious reaction is, “You know we can hear you, right?”

Stephanie Richer

Bless you, madam. Should someone attempt to guess your age, may their estimate be wildly and pleasingly inaccurate.

Just in time - today is my birthday.

David

[ Slides cake along bar, licks fingers. ]

TomJ
But, and this is a big but (giggity), if you've ever driven behind something like that vehicle, you'd want either a periscope or a similar sized vehicle to see things like traffic lights which are blocked by the monster in front of you.

Leading to a sort of arms race? That does not appear to be a Good Thing, particularly given the size of blind spot there must be in front of the drivers.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Doll Baby superfan weighs in with:

How are there this many people failing to realize that your point is that if a road were being repaired an temporary alternative would be present?

Doll Baby is another urban dwelling bike freak who thinks the third world is the way to go.

I get so much use out my basket and cargo net and am always impressed by how much they can hold. About $40 total.

Great, now do a 4X8 sheet of plywood (or anything that doesn't fit the basket) in the snow.

To be fair, that vehicle is bloody ridiculous.

So is a Smart car for anything other than driving your pet hamster in a city, and yes, trucks are getting bigger. This bozo, however, was using an obviously lifted truck as if it was a normal height. Because I sometimes have to tow a heavy object over sometimes dodgy roads in less then clement weather, and for this purpose have a 4X4 pickup. I am 6'2" and the hood does not come anywhere near my shoulder, this guy is another dishonest hack.

ccscientist

The cases out there like this author practice more introspection than their actual thoughts can support. This leads to self-diagnosis of mental illness, which they are proud of to show how unique they are, and in fact amplify by their navel gazing. For example, everyone has up days and down days (it is raining and you didn't sleep well and...) but they diagnose bipolar (Hey! it isn't binary, it is a spectrum!). They ask themselves if they did turn off the stove, so they must be OCD. They look askance at the crazy homeless person so they must be racist. And then they proudly put all this on their instagram profile.

As to cars, it is hard not having a car. I did it for years in college. You have to ride your bike in the rain and cold--which assumes you are fit enough to ride a bike. The one person was so pleased that they could carry $40 worth of groceries on their bike. Back in the day if I picked up a gallon of milk on my bike, that was it for that trip. Have friends who live more than a mile away? You need a car or an uber (oops, that's a car). It is infantile really. Not being willing to grow up and blaming the world for it.

Farnsworth M Muldoon

Not being willing to grow up and blaming the world for it.

Exactly. I don't give a rat's ass that the guy wants to live crammed in some urban warren where he can walk and/or ride a bike to carry a day's worth of groceries, I do give a rat's ass that he wants everyone to live that way.

WTP

As to cars, it is hard not having a car. I did it for years in college. You have to ride your bike in the rain and cold…

I, and my 4-6 roommates did as well. We had a friend who lived elsewhere who had a car who would give us a ride to buy groceries. Aside from that, classes, concerts, ballgames, and especially laundry were all done on a bike. Packing all your clothes into a big garbage bag, bungee cording it to your book rack such that the wheels will not wear a hole in it, riding downhill to the laundry mat, sometimes in a light rain, along one very busy street across another very busy street, etc. At least there was a pool hall next door. Ah, but we were happy then...not really...

John

Taking a less musing approach, Rapper Ice-T tweeted: “It would be kinda dope if Musk bought Twitter and just shut it off…. Lol”

Off topic I know but fair play to Ice-T!

Jim Whyte

Not being willing to grow up and blaming the world for it.

The dear departed Kathy Shaidle had a zippy comeback for bicycular virtue signallers; it went something like, "So you're not old enough to drive?"

On tractors, the Little Square Faced Kid had an instant fascination, enough that we taught him "big" and "small" by pointing at the two sets of wheels. Heavy equipment of any kind fascinated him. He's 18 and I'm still hoping he'll go off to Fort Mac to operate a dragline (with remittances back home, of course).

Maynard G. Krebs

Traumatized Soy Boy is a pretty good retro-punk band name.

TomJ
So is a Smart car for anything other than driving your pet hamster in a city, and yes, trucks are getting bigger.

Well, my Roadster's given me almost 2 decades and 10s of thousands of miles of fun motoring the length and breadth of Britain, costing an awful lot less and much easier to park than a ridiculously large truck, and I don't even have a hamster...

This bozo, however, was using an obviously lifted truck as if it was a normal height.

The fact that "lift kit" and a lifted truck is a concept you're surprised/mocking he doesn't recognise shows it's not entirely abnormal...

Back in the day if I picked up a gallon of milk on my bike, that was it for that trip. Have friends who live more than a mile away? You need a car or an uber (oops, that's a car).

A gallon of milk wouldn't even fill half of one pannier. And a mile is a 6 minute cycle; hardly a huge barrier. The whole "bikes are ridiculously useless" schtick is as tiresome as the "cars are inherently evil" one.

PiperPaul

I don't even have a hamster

Not even in the engine?

pst314

I am still annoyed that on the occasion someone saw me getting out of my Smart Roadster on my return to the Mess and said to me "I'm surprised a big rugby player like you isn't driving something like a Land Rover instead of that little thing...

Another rugby player f*cking with you, the way some men do?

...it was hours before I realised the perfect, accurate response would have been, "I'm not trying to compensate for anything."

Small zippy sports cars have a very long and honored history*, and can be fun to drive, so I do sometimes wonder how it is that we now have some people belittling them. I strongly suspect that it is a result of the nasty comments that are endlessly spouted by anti-car and anti-truck fanatics. (Remember the "smug emissions" episode of South Park?)

Truck and SUV drivers have grown very tired of that "joke", as have gun owners. And in the real world those who make such jokes are the ones likely to be compensating for something, be it anatomy or phobia.

* How many spy heroes drove little sports cars? Right off the bat I can think of James Bond (various cars), John Drake in Danger Man (Cooper Mini), and Number Six in The Prisoner (Lotus).

pst314

A gallon of milk wouldn't even fill half of one pannier. And a mile is a 6 minute cycle...

Many years ago, I experimented with that. I found that the weight of a fully loaded pannier made for awkward cycling. Whats' more, one pannier could not hold all the groceries, necessitating more trips per week. The one-mile trip to the supermarket took significantly more than six minutes because it was prudent to avoid the very busy main street.

TomJ
Not even in the engine?
Sssh, don't reveal the powerplant's secret!
Another rugby player f*cking with you, the way some men do?

No, I'm pretty sure she didn't play...

How many spy heroes drove little sports cars?

Don't forger Danger Mouse.

sonny wayz

And in the real world those who make such jokes are the ones likely to be compensating for something, be it anatomy or phobia.

ISTR that the 'compensation' taunt started with Joyce Brothers. Guess whose hubby had a concealed carry permit in New York City?

pst314

I don't give a rat's ass that the guy wants to live crammed in some urban warren where he can walk and/or ride a bike to carry a day's worth of groceries

I lived in urban apartments until my 30's: I could hop a subway to concerts and museums, dozens of bookstores (not to mention all sorts of specialty shops) were within walking distance of home and subway stops, and I was only a few blocks from a huge network of bike-friendly parks. But eventually I fled to the suburbs to escape crime and "vibrant" urban diversity--not to mention lower real estate prices. The reduced crowding is much less stressful.

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